Sorry I have not been blogging much, Dear Reader- things have been a bit crazy to say the least.
I have some more big news- H and I are having a baby! We found out a couple of weeks ago so it is very early days for us but I just can't contain myself; I have to share the news.
It has been a very long journey to get to destination 'baby'. I know many couples also have challenges getting pregnant so this in itself is nothing new, but as a same sex couple it is very challenging if you don't have a spare £10K in the bank and want to have a baby. We explored lots of options- including co-parenting and using a known donor but in the end we went for an anonymous donor and received IUI (insemination) treatment at a private clinic in London. We were told there was a 12% chance of us conceiving (which is the percentage chance for anyone trying to get pregnant, the regular way) and were astonished when we defied the odds and got pregnant first time. (And thank God- the procedure was the worst thing I have ever experienced). I am feeling well at the moment, if a bit up and down both emotionally and with my energy levels. Both of us are incredibly excited about becoming parents.
A friend of mine asked if having the baby might mean we disband the challenge of not buying new for a year. My first thoughts were "Hell No!". Having a baby is the perfect opportunity to ramp up our second hand buying activities- there is just no need to buy anything new especially when it might only be used for a matter or weeks or months. Especially when several of my lovely friends have babies under 2 and are probably itching to clear space in their garages of all the toys and kit they no longer need/use.
So- I have added a few baby related items to the wishlist- big things and small things that we want and I can't wait to report how we get on finding them. I would love to get everything we need for less than £500 too- that would be a real win!
I have also listed a few maternity items for me- tops and jeans and will venture into second hand places I have never been before in order to hunt these out- how exciting!!
I promise to keep in touch more regularly Dear Reader and let you know how all this goes!